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Ndifreke Ekott

Software Engineer

Software Engineer with 8+ years of experience working with a diverse set of programming languages, toolsets and teams. Passionate about Software Development Methodologies (Agile), Data Processing workflow, Cloud and Continuous integration. Always on the path to learning and keeping up to date.

Being you and shinning regardless

A tweet triggered this post. I looked at an individual's profile and read their short bio and why they made arts and posted for free and occasionally selling some. They had a different job but did crafts as a hobby and looking at their Etsy page and Instagram profile, I was impressed, and the work looked lovely.
The tweet brought out the feeling I had in the last weekend; I was doing a lot of coding which to the non-technical may not make sense. But I was enjoying what I did to the point I had to tell myself when to go to bed less I stay up all night. There was a sense of accomplishment and a feeling of even putting in more time to this venture.
So what am I trying to say here:

You will be the happiest being who you are. It doesn't matter whether it makes sense to others or not. Do what you love and let your light shine regardless.

A sense of depression or lack of accomplishment will be felt when you hide who you are. If you are passionate about something, keep doing it, share it with others, talk about it. It doesn't matter if you get applauds or not. You feel a sense of loss or lack of achievement when you don't share or demonstrate your passion.

Do you love video games? Play them, share them, talk about them. It doesn't matter if people think playing video games makes you immature. Truth is when you drop the thing you love to conform to an expectation which isn't you, you lose. You just dimmed your light to, and the truth is the folks expecting this will not care to applaud you when you conform to meet their expectation.

Never let your light
Retrospective on 2018. Part 1 - The Human Experience

I usually don't write about the year gone by, and we also know at this time of the year there will be a flood of 2018 review articles and some looking to 2019. I have always reflected on the year past like everyone has but keeping a record of my thought hasn't been done before. I decided to write this down as a memoir to myself. It would be great to have this recorded somewhere I can review as we experience 2019.

I have broken the write up into two parts, with a focus on two essential aspects of my life. I intend to write about the Human and Techie elements of 2018. At every point in time, I seem to exhibit two personalities, the human side which deals with everyday living as a human and there is the Tech side lurking behind. The Techie articles will be a follow up to this. Let's begin with the Human Experience.

The year 2018 has been a year of surprises, learning and a year I spent looking to streamline my view of the world, figure out what works and develop emotionally, spiritually and aim for peace of mind. To keep my thoughts coherent, I have chosen to break my points into the following headings:

  • Relationships
  • The Opinion Filter
  • Strength in adversity
  • Time management
  • Social media

Relationships

Relationships form the crux of our very existence. No matter the form a relationship takes, we are always seeking to bond with people or pets as the case may apply. The type of relationships and the strength of those bonds does shape our state of mind from experiencing happiness, sadness, loneliness etc. This year has been a year of figuring out my relationships and how I react to them.

As kids, forming relationships was easy, we

Ode To Our Unsung Heroes
Cheers to those who keep pushing ahead in life. Who keep aspiring for greatness despite the nagging voice that tells you to quit. To give up because it is easier than sustaining this fight. Cheers to those who chase dreams above their current station, who don't see the future through the lens of this day. Cheers to those who rise and refuse to be put down. Cheers to those who persevere and beat the odds no matter how long it takes. Cheers to those who refuse to be put down by the negativity about us today. Cheers to those who stand tall and yet shoulder responsibilities quietly but grace each day with renewed hope of a better tomorrow. You unsung heroes, uncelebrated veteran. Rise again for another day is yet upon us, dreams to chase, the wind to sail in and hope to water. Rise warriors for glory awaits you on the other side.

The above came to mind while making my way to work on a Thursday morning. I have a 1.5 hours commute to work every weekday and in order to make it to the office on time, I usually need out of the house by 7am (it used to be 6:30am). I know the time isn't the worse as I know others who have to be out of the house way earlier. But you see I moved form a Job that allowed me to make it to the office for 10 AM and this right now is new for me.

In total, I have 3 to 4 hours of commute from my door to work and back and somedays with a combination of weather, train signal failures and other things going on in my life, I do wish I could change my situation. But despite